Destined to be a cat lady... I hate cats....

So. I'm single. And, except for a quick, 1 week relapse with an ex, have been that way for coming up on three years. It's funny how so many  non-single people feel the need to "fix" or "cure" people that are single. Like it's a disease. Now don't get me wrong, I appreciate that people think of me and that they want me to be happy in love. I really do!! My complaint isn't people trying to fix me up. In fact, bring it on. But I am picky. I figure if I have managed to be single this long and not completely lose my mind, I might as well stick to my guns, right? I mean, why should I settle. I may be lonely, but I'm not desperate. I want my next relationship to be my last. I don't think that is too much to ask.... is it?

So I've made a list. Some things I'm willing to overlook or compromise on... others, it's all or nothing.


I would prefer a guy close in age. I mean, if they aren't in the same place in life as I am, why bother. I think no more than 5 or six years in either direction.. Although 6 years younger may be stretching it.
I'm about to make it official that I can't have any more kids, so my new guy can't want to have any (more) kids. If he already has some of his own, great! If not, (and even if he does) love mine like his own. In saying that though, he will need to realize that my boys have dads. I'm not out daddy shopping!
He needs to make me a priority. I would never expect to be priority number one. Especially if he has kids. I can't make that promise, so why would I expect him to. But being a priority is important.


Personality is important to me! If a guy can make me laugh, I'm putty in his hands. I mean really laugh though. Not the stupid little giggle. Not the "I'm laughing at you not with you" laugh. (ok well sometimes that one works too).  There is a reason I find this man extremely sexy!

A guy that loves music like I do. A guy that appreciates theatre. A guy that knows that I'm a single mom, so most of my days and nights are taken up, and it's not always easy for me to get out of my house. A guy that doesn't need to leave the house to have a good time. We can sit on the couch and watch movies, or read books. Wanna have friends over for dinner, a couple drinks and some board games? Sounds like a GREAT night to me! But at the same time, who wants to be a hermit?!? Let's go out to a pub for dinner with another couple and find a place to go dancing for a night. FUN!!!!! OR, my favourite, let's go find a restaurant with a quiet little table, get a bottle of wine, appies, meal. Let's take our time and just enjoy each others company. I think I'm pretty easy to please.

I like to be taken care of. But I'm not a princess that needs to be waited on and coddled. You take care of me, and I'll take care of you.


Is that picky? Is that just knowing what I want?

I don't really care what it is.

Suddenly I feel like I'm writing my profile on a dating site. WHICH, by the way, are TERRIBLE!!!!

Why is every guy on those things looking for a hook up? Why is it that "looking for a long term relationship" is now code for "looking for random sex"? "I like to cuddle" means "I want to get in your pants".
I will admit, I have signed up for a few, just to see what's going on out there. One site matched me with an ex. (BOY was I glad I didn't put my name or picture up!!). Another site constantly matched me with guys either 50+ or under 25. (Remember I was saying I want someone to be in the same point in life as I am... those guys, not so much). A third site actually matched me with a guy I though was pretty awesome, until, before even showing me a picture of his face, he popped up on webcam with his.. "interesting piercing". (I know, right?!?!?).  One site even told me that I was "unmatchable". (Thanks for the ego boost!! Toodles!!).

SO dating sites are out. Now how do I go about meeting someone?? Like I mentioned, I don't exactly get out of the house much. I get up in the morning, get the kid and myself ready. Off to work/daycare and school. Home from work/daycare rush to make dinner, do homework, teeth, bath, load of laundry, try to squeeze quality time in there. All in 2 hours. Bed time for bonzo because he's cranky in the morning if he doesn't get enough sleep. Mommy gets a bit of mommy time. This includes dishes, folding the afore mentioned laundry, picking up the toys that somehow in the short period we were home, got strewn throughout the apartment. If I'm quick I have time to catch up with an episode of  one of my shows. Then off to bed I go. Lather, rinse repeat. 5 days a week. Weekends don't leave much time either due to more cleaning, more laundry, more quality time with the munchkin. So I figure, Prince Charming might just have to come to me. I'm not so sure he'll some knocking on my door though. In a conversation with a friend of mine, it was decided that I need to start singing more (if that's possible), and talking to small animals, and maybe befriending 7 small people or losing my slipper somewhere (wait, that would mean leaving the house... never mind).

Got any other ideas?? The cat lady thing is looking more and more like reality... And I hate cats....